An essential part of growing up to be successful includes learning how to set and pursue goals.
“All successful people have a goal. No one can get anywhere unless he knows where he wants to go and what he wants to be or do.” —Norman Vincent Peale
For teens and especially those who've been in foster care, it's hard to imagine, much less make goals for the future.
So this post will provide guidance and a framework for creating meaningful goals.
This post is the 3rd in a multi-part series on helping your child to succeed at moving out on their own or how to "help your kid move out and stay out."
In my second post, I covered how to manage time well.
Being good at time management means organizing your time intentionally and prioritizing activities that efficiently advance you towards your goals and honor your values.
Often poor time management comes from a lack of clarity on goals and values.
In covering how to set goals, we'll look at:
- The definition of a goal
- Barriers for teens to setting goals
- How to figure out what you really want
- 20 Questions to help you design your ideal life
- How to improve your chances of success
Merriam-Webster defines a goal as "the end toward which effort is directed."
A goal is accomplishment you make plans for and work towards.
Often when someone says they have a goal, what they really mean is that they are attracted to a vague idea. They may say, "I just want to be happy." Happiness is a byproduct, not a goal - and it rarely happens without effort.
As Andrew Carengie said, "If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes."
Great goals start with daydreams, imaginations, and hopes.